It’s
how to stop the whining and be the winner!
It’s how to dream it and create it!
Lessons learned from your past experiences
pour the foundation from which
your actions today build
success in all areas of your life.
Wisdom2Win reconditions unproductive behaviors by adjusting
perceptions, attitudes,
and actions forging a winning streak.
Rather than dwelling on what should have been
or if
only this or that happened, but instead resolving the
past, gaining wisdom, and launching a rich and rewarding
life. The lessons learned from your past experiences
pour
the foundation from which your actions today build success
in all areas of your life—business and personal. Without
that understanding, you most likely feel life has passed
you by, as if you are stuck in a rut, and as if this is your lot
in life losing hope for a brighter tomorrow. On the
other hand, with Wisdom2Win you are empowered to
dream up
the life you wish for, chart your plan, and achieve it.
How
do I gain wisdom from my past when I can’t seem to
get over my past?
Remaining attached to your past, rather than learning the
lessons, undermines your chances of hitting a winning streak.
We all have misfortune and there’s no getting
around
the fact that, at times, life brings you stormy weather.
When the rains come,
you have a choice…either stay
in the flood or find higher ground. When the need-to-
action
calls, you must build a boat; if not, do nothing and drown.
It’s a decision, a
choice, you must make. So how do
you move past the storms with a new attitude
that attracts
the glorious rainbows in the day? Here are three approaches
to life…
one of which will reap you success.
You
can handle life’s
experiences in 3 ways: Victim Syndrome, Denial, or Acceptance
VICTIM
SYNDROME Woe-Is-Me
By choosing the victim approach, you take on the poor-me-role
by retelling your tale of woe to others. (I call this awfulizing.)
This is a weak stance for those of you who settle for life happening
to you rather than making your life happen. By
whining the woe-is-me broken record, you prophesize
your gloom and doom future by rehashing the gloom and doom
of your past. Furthermore, by perceiving yourself as a victim,
you give your potential and power away to circumstances. All
the while you place blame on others which creates an emotional
hostage relationship between you and your scapegoat. This attachment
keeps you stuck and unable to move past the experience. Furthermore,
by focusing on the negative you attract more negativity into
your life like an old movie playing the same scenes over and
over again. This is not a winning approach and, therefore,
not an option for those ready to launch into a successful life.
How
can I determine if I’m
playing a victim role? If you notice that you spend a great deal of time whining,
keep a journal of your woe-is-me stories and answer this
question, “What am I gaining by rehashing the past?”
DENIAL Out of Touch
By sinking into denial you are suppressing unhealed wounds
and evading responsible action to modify the situation. In
a state of denial, one feels anxious and overwhelmed by day-to-day
events. Because one has not yet recognized and accepted the
painful past experience, the memory festers and infects the
future.
The insidious cycle of denial leads to addictions masking reality
which delays call-to-action. Addictions come in different forms:
alcohol abuse, drug abuse (prescribed or self-medicated), over-spending,
eating disorders, gambling, pornography, dysfunctional/abusive
relationships, or other such destructive activities sedating
you from the original wound. Addictions cover up the painful
past memory. Addictions are self-punishing, self-defeating,
self-sabotaging, and self-destructive which create even more
havoc in your life, more than the original unresolved memory.
Addictions are the disease of denial paralyzing you and sabotaging
your efforts in reaching your destiny.
How
can I tell if I’m in denial? Do you feel as though you are in
a rut, overwhelmed, and unsure how to live your life
differently? Start by asking yourself this question, “Do
I expect different results from doing the same thing
over and over again.” If
you answer, “Yes”, and if you suffer
from chronic anxiety over trivial matters whether by
over-reacting or shutting down, ask yourself this question: “What happened
in my past that causes me to do the things that I don’t
want to do or to feel overwhelmed and paralyzed with fear.” Keep
a journal and record situations that trigger discomfort.
Pay attention to the patterns; therein lies your buried and
unresolved issue.
How
can I tell if I’m addicted? Denial
is usually masked over and covered up with addictions. Ask
yourself, “What just happened that makes me
want to succumb to my compulsion and what happened in my
past that I painstakingly want to suppress by surrendering
to my addictions.” Then ask yourself, “What
behaviors do I choose to do that delay me from confronting
my current problems.” Journal your addictive
behaviors and examine your past in order to achieve acceptance.
Otherwise, addictions will destroy relationships while creating
financial doom and illness. The sooner you face your monsters
from long ago, the sooner you are able to recover from your
addictions and advance to a brighter future.
ACCEPTANCE Your Launching Pad
Resolving your past cements the foundation from which
you launch your abundant life. Through acceptance you gain
wisdom. By squeezing lemons—lessons learned from your
past—into lemonade, you create success. Through
acceptance you no longer rehash the woe-is-me broken
record but rather you let go of the past and move forward.
By acknowledging the past rather than
denying it, you accept responsibility for your actions and
emotions rather than camouflaging reality with destructive
addictions. Instead, through acceptance you can then advance
onward to a rich and rewarding life. In other words, claim
the pain so you can release it. With acceptance one can get
on with life; hence, Wisdom2Win!
How can I tell
if I resolved my past?
If you no longer avoid life-on-life’s-terms by
exhibiting self-sabotaging behaviors and if you no longer
whine over the trauma of your past, then you have gained
wisdom from those lessons and poured a solid foundation—your
launching pad for your successful life.
I think I resolved my past but I
can’t seem to catch a winning streak.
The past is sneaky and it tends to creep up to the surface
in inconspicuous ways sabotaging your best efforts at grabbing
the pie-in-the-sky. That being the case, there is something
you overlooked cracking your foundation. Just as an office
clerk must never assume those papers stashed in the back
of the filing cabinet might not have pressing unfinished
business before the auditor arrives, you, too, must examine
all the nooks and crannies of your past before you can effectively
build your success.
Wisdom2Win guides you inward to those nooks and crannies
just like a fastidious investigator unearthing and exposing
the who-dunnit-mystery. Do not be discouraged,
success is around the corner for those of you willing to
dream up the life you deserve.
